Friday, 10 January 2014
It's customary to review your life at the beginning of a New Year. What have you done, and what do you want to accomplish? If all you can think of is "I'm glad that's over and I wish I could win the Lottery" then you are probably languishing. Which means you are narrowing your focus, worrying about what isn't working in your life, and feeling as if all the air has gone out of your tyres!
Positive psychology has a lot to say about the state of languishing. It's not a happy or very resourceful place to be. The opposite of languishing is flourishing. This is the state of positive human functioning which is surprisingly most evident when things aren't going so well. Flourishing is made up of qualities of being such as resilience, optimism, meaning-making, character strengths and virtues, creativity, personal goals, well-being, and wisdom.
It turns out that flourishing can be learned. And you can start the New Year by finding out how to apply the skills and techniques of positive psychology to turn your life around.
Book an appointment now. It's cheaper than Jenny Craig, and the results are more profound and more enduring!
Friday, 29 June 2012
To say "I'm sorry" has different meanings depending on context and culture. A core issue is how culpability is assessed. An apology might be seen as an admission of wrongdoing, or it could be seen as an expression of eagerness to repair a damaged relationship without implying culpability. What do you mean when you say "I'm sorry"?
You might mean, "I'm the one responsible, and I accept blame". Or you could mean, "it's unfortunate that this has happened". In a survey of US and Japanese undergraduates, the Japanese students recalled issuing an average of 11.05 apologies the previous week, whereas the US students recalled just 4.51.