Doughnut Wisdom!

Buddhist thinking claims we are both self and no-self. Rather like a doughnut. The hole in the doughnut is like our self-identity. It's defined by the doughnut. But in itself it is empty. Does the hole exist? Yes. So long as the doughnut exists. Our sense of self is both evident and non-existent (or indeed, everywhere) at the same time! So what do I defend when I feel affronted? Only the doughnut. Since my essence is the hole of the doughnut, and therefore indefensible. Get it?